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Growth and God go hand in hand.

Daily writing prompt
What is one way you have grown this year?
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I no longer try to control things that are out of my control.

I have learned that life is going to test us sometimes. Life is going to challenge us sometimes. Life is going to throw curveballs and kick our asses sometimes, and sometimes – some of that stuff is going to be out of our control.

I used to stress over many things. I used to worry. I used to stay awake at night if there was an issue.

I used to try to figure out what I can do to change outcomes, or people’s minds, or to try to make a situation better.

I don’t do that anymore.

These days, I have grown by just allowing whatever is going to be – to be.

If I know I have the power to change something – be it a situation or someone’s mind, or whatever life is throwing at me, I will do everything in my power to do so, but if I know there is probably nothing that I can do to change something – I’m not even going to try to do it anymore, and I’m just going to go with the flow.

I no longer allow myself to stress over things I can’t control.

I no longer try to change things I can’t control.

I no longer allow myself lose sleep over things I can’t control, or to let those things upset me.

It is what it is and it’s going to be what it’s going to be.

I trust God and sometimes – we just have to grow with him and let him handle the things that are out of our control and power.

Sometimes, we just have to trust him to know who and what we need, who and what we don’t need, and to do what only God can do.

I was watching a movie one time (The War Room) and in this movie – a woman was trying to change her husband and his ways to keep her family together, and she finally broke down and cried over the husband not changing. Not wanting to make it work. Not thinking about his family.

She met an elderly woman who told her the reason things are not working out the way she wants to – is because she’s trying to control the situation without God. She’s not praying about it. This elderly woman tells her she has to pray, give all these problems to God, and then “Get out of the way and let him do what only he can do!”.

I took that advice to allow myself to grow in that, and that’s what I follow these days.

With situations at my job. With relationships and friendships. With life itself. With anything that happens these days.

I don’t get upset. I don’t get angry. I don’t get stressed or bothered or try to control a situation or curveball life throws at me.

I simply “Let go and Let God”.

I pray about whatever it is on my mind or in my heart, or anything that comes my way that I can’t control or handle, and then – I get out of the way and let God do what only he can do. Only he can control the situation, the curveball, the stress, the worry, the problems – whatever they may be.

That’s one way I’ve grown this year.

I don’t try to control or change the things I can’t control or change.

I pray about them and wait for God to guide me or put it in my heart to do what only I can do.

I’ve had to walk by faith and in faith many times, and I’ve grown to allow myself to trust God to make things happen, or make things right, or even to make things better. To let a situation or problem work itself out, or for me to be okay at the end of a problem or situation. To walk me through it and be there with me as I do, and I always just pray for him to let things work out the way they’re supposed to.

I no longer worry.

Someone also once said that worrying is like a rocking chair – it gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.

I follow that now.

It took a lot for me to grow not only emotionally, but spiritually and to trust God to take control of the things I can’t and to work them out for good.

I fully believe in the Serenity prayer, and I learned it when I was a little girl going to church often, and still follow that today.

I no longer try to do everything that pleases everyone.

I no longer care what others thing about what I do that makes me and my kids happy.

I no longer worry about nonsense and who does what.

I no longer care or stress about a lot of things, because it feels amazing when you let all that go, trust God and allow yourself to just breathe. Just live. Just be.

So, this is my “way I’ve grown in the last year”.

And now – time for Coffee and Good morning!

🍵Shel🍵

Soulmate Vs. Your person!

Daily writing prompt
Do you believe in soulmates? Why or why not?
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Today’s WP prompt question gives me a ROSS AND RACHEL vibe!

If you’ve watched the show F.R.I.E.N.D.S. before – you’ll know.

He was her person and no matter what guy she dated, where she relocated or was in life, no matter what she was going through – she knew that. She was his person, and no matter woman he dated, where he was, or what he was going through – he knew that.

They were each other’s happy place.

To answer the question, No. I don’t believe in Soulmates, but I do believe that everyone has their person out there.

When you find your person – you’ll just know.

And no, it’s not the same thing as Soulmates.

From Google’s POV:

“A Soulmate is typically about a deep, spiritual, or instant connection meant to teach you lessons, while “your person” – is your chosen, long-term teammate who provides everyday stability and reliability”.

Google goes on to share that:

Soulmate: Often feels like a predestined, magnetic pull. These relationships can be intense and rocky, arriving to challenge you, change your perspective, and foster personal growth.


Your Person: This is a conscious, everyday choice. They are your reliable best friend, safe space, and life partner who sticks by you through practical challenges.

I like the idea of “my person” being out there somewhere.

I don’t like the word Soulmates for some reason, and I’ve never believed in that sort of thing.

I think “your person” is more practical, and makes more sense.

The person who makes you feel loved, safe, protected. Not every day is going to be roses and sunshine, but your person makes you feel like no matter what – he or she is going to be there to get you through everything, so you don’t have to do the hard times alone.

No matter what mistakes you both make, what you go through together, how many times you disagree, or so on – you know in your heart you can’t be without that person, and that’s the person who makes you the happiest.

It’s hard to explain in my opinion, but they’re not the same thing and I believe in “your person” being out there or having your person – more than soulmates.

Make sense?

We all have our person out there, and if you’ve found yours, Congrats! 😊💕

If not, trust me when I say it will eventually happen, and you’ll just know.

Google also says:

“Your person” refers to someone with whom you share a profound, unconditional connection. They are your ultimate confidant, someone who accepts your flaws, celebrates your victories, and provides a safe space—whether they are a romantic partner or a best friend.

I couldn’t have said it better myself!

This scene always makes me a little sad – when Ross finally gets the nerve to tell Rachel how he truly feels and she’s about to move and start a new job!

See?

He knew that was his person, and he waited too long.

If you know who your person is already, don’t do that.

Don’t be a Ross. lol.

So, no. I don’t believe in the Soulmate thing and don’t even like the word, but I do believe in having your person!

Have a blessed day my loves!

❤️Shel❤️