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Today’s WP writing prompt – made me laugh as I thought about the exhausting, crazy and chaotic, endless-cycle of Amy’s daily routine in the great and hilarious movie (Bad Moms).
If you’ve never seen it, you should! (Don’t forget to watch A BAD MOMS Christmas) after Bad moms.
Both of them are not movies for kids, so wait until your kids are in bed, and pour youurself a glass of wine. Enjoy!
You definitely have to have a sense of humor and not easily be offended to watch both movies, but I love them. 😁
The amazing actress (Mila Kunis) plays a married mom (Amy). She eventually finds out her husband is enjoying his alone time with an online cam model, and (Amy) kicks him out of their home, as she then has to navigate life as a semi-single mother doing everything on her own, while she’s about to go through a divorce as well.
In the scene where she’s describing her never-ending chaos, she says:
That’s me.
That is totally me, and I’m non-stop on the go – all the time.
Even when I think I can sleep-in or relax, one of my kids tells me there’s something to do, or they have to go somewhere, or something needs to be done.
Chaos should have been my middle name.
Between work, rushing around picking up dinner, getting home to make dinner, getting my little dude ready for Baseball practice or Baseball games, cleaning the house, getting laundry done, paying bills, feeding the animals and making sure they have clean liter, and water, trying to get my daughter into a good EMS/Medic program, filling out applications for her, picking up extra shifts at work, keeping up with family and friends, calls I have to make to people who left me messages, grocery shopping, vet visits, and so many other things…………………………………………………………..
Chaos is totally a thing here.
Did that whole list I wrote out non-stop – make your head spin? It makes mine do loops.
Let’s add on unexpected bills I sometimes get and forget about, jury duty that I’m all of a sudden summoned to, car repairs that need to be done, bed-time routines, waking up early to have at least 30 minutes to myself in silence with a hot cup of coffee I’m probably going to forget about and have to heat up 3 times before I actually get to drink it anyway, and other things I have going on and I’m dealing with – it’s a lot.
It’s a whole lot!
Still, I love being a mom. I love working. I love making money. I love the running around. I love the crazy, wild, chaos.
I can’t say I love unexpected curve balls life throws at me, or the 20 million other things I have to do daily, errands I have to run, or new things that keep popping up that keep me on my toes, but as much as I feel like I’m going to lose my mind – I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Life is crazy chaotic right now, but it keeps me busy, doesn’t let me slack off much, and doesn’t give me time to be down and depressed.
Sometimes, the chaos is so crazy and good – that while I have problems sleeping – there’s some nights my eyes close before my head even hits the pillow because I’m so tired from running around all day and being so busy. There are times I’m so tired, that my sleep problems aren’t an issue and I knock out right on the couch when I sit down to relax for a moment.
So, to answer this question – a little (or, even a lot for some of us) of chaos – IS good for us.
It keeps us busy and keeps our minds off of the things we don’t want to think about.
It helps us sleep at night if we’re so busy, we’re exhausted at the end of the day.
It can actually help keep us focused on the things we really need to get done and prioritize.
Sometimes, chaos can keep us motivated and make us want to do other things we’ve been slacking on.
So, yes – chaos is good for us, and if you have chaos in your life right now, take it as a blessing.
Who wants to be bored all the time, and have NOTHING going on?
So, cheers to Chaos. 🍻I think we all have a little bit inside of us and around us, and it’s a beautiful thing.
To answer today’s WP writing prompt – it would absolutely be the lesson of cherishing every great moment and every person you love while they’re still here.
Today is the 4th of July, and I used to take that for granted many years ago.
My oldest daughter was still alive.
My mom and dad were still alive.
My brother and his ex-wife were still together.
I was an auntie to two.
I still lived in Illinois.
4th of Julys used to look a lot different.
For the last few 4ths – everything was different.
My oldest was killed in a car crash with her girlfriend in 2021. She was the passenger.
My dad passed in 2023 from Cancer.My mom passed in 2024 from – what we can only assume was a heart attack, because no autopsy was done. She passed in an assisted living facility. We knew it was probably coming, but we didn’t know it would be that soon. She had just celebrated her 70th birthday. With my dad, he was in hospice for a while, so we knew for sure that death was coming.
My brother and his now ex-wife have since divorced, obviously.
My nephews live with their mother, and I’m now an auntie to three – however, I don’t get to see my niece. My brother’s now ex-fiancé – (a different woman) – wants nothing to do with my brother, so she has decided that includes his family. My niece’s family that she should know. I even sent her a huge box full of adorable baby stuff I picked out when my niece was first born, and a special gift for her, but I got nothing.
I’d love to spend the 4th with her.
My kids and I also now live in Minnesota.
So many things have absolutely changed from the 4th of July traditions I was used to.
We always went to my brother’s place for the 4th, and his wife (now ex) would always make sure I had a drink in my hand when I arrived. lol. My brother and I would joke around. She’d yell at him and tell him to leave me alone, and I’d threaten to kick his ass after I finished my drink. He’d make more jokes, and life was good back then.
My kids would be sitting around the table eating every snack in sight. Chips and dip. My mom’s famous Vegetable pizza, and whatever else was laid out for everyone.
My brother would be grilling, and my older son would be next to him helping or watching over the grill.
My mom and dad would argue about something every 4th of July, and we’d always giggle because it would be something so stupid, but I miss even that. 🤣 They’d both be aggravated with each other, and my dad would say, “Okay, okay!”, and end the fight – letting my mother have the last word, and my mother would look at me and say, “He loves to aggravate me!”. By the end of the night, they’d be sitting next to each other acting like nothing ever happened. ALMOST EVERY 4TH OF JULY!
My nephews would be in the kiddie pool or running around getting into mischief with my little dude, and my youngest daughter chased them around here and there.
We’d take selfies and photos with each other, and of the food.
We poured more drinks.
We joked around and shared so much laughter.
We recalled so many funny “Remember when’s”………..(memories), and we enjoyed each other’s company.
My brother would run in and get the fireworks as soon as dusk arrived, and we’d watch him blow them off in the alley, joking that the fire trucks needed to be on standby.
Once we watched him blow off his fireworks and then watched the fireworks that were lighting up the sky around us, we’d play music (usually country or oldies), sit and talk, laugh, and enjoy the night as it got later and later, and nobody wanted to say goodbye.
We had dessert, more drinks, and more fun.
I miss those days, and that’s how we spent many 4th of Julys.
That’s not something that will ever happen again with all of us there, and it sucks – but life has to go on right?
One lesson I have learned recently that shifted my perspective – is to love everyone so much while they are alive, take so many photos, tell them you love them, cherish them, take the time to look around and cherish each and every moment – because one day – they will be just memories that you wish you could relive one last time at least.
I smiled today as I thought of the past 4th of July’s and how much love, fun, laughter and good times we had.
I thought of the time my brother sat on the tailgate of his pickup truck one 4th, and I told him the burgers were going to burn – as he was jamming out to country music and drinking, and he told me he was going to make my burger extra dark and crispy to shut me up.
I thought of the time my brother sent me a photo of a big piece of wood he super glued wires and different fireworks to and asked what I thought would happen if he set the fireworks off like that. I laughed so much and told him I was going to take bets amongst our friends to see who would arrive first – the fire department, the ambulance or the police.
I thought about the 4th that my oldest kiddo and I got into this huge argument over something goofy, and at the end of the night, I asked if she wanted to go for a ride and have cake, and she laughed and said, “Hell yeah I do!”. She was 18 or 19 at that time I believe. Even those memories are funny now and I miss them.
I thought about many different things from past 4th of Julys that I could never get back, and memories of times that are long gone now, so please – take all the photos you need to with loved ones, cherish good moments before they become memories, and never take them or the people you love for granted because one day, you’re going to wish they were still here and those moments weren’t just memories.
I also love the memories of the 4th of July’s I’d stop by my best friend’s house.
Her mom would make Jello shots. They’d have the music on, and her dad grilled.
Thankfully, if I did go back to Illinois, I could still make more memories on the 4th will all of them.
Her family is like a 2nd family to me, and I know I’m always welcomed there. ❤️
My aunt and Uncle’s house – has become a new tradition on the 4th as well out in Illinois.
We’ve been there the last few 4ths, and I’ve been so grateful they’ve welcomed us into their home because the 4th is always a lot more fun ln a pool watching the fireworks above or hanging out with family.
So, even if we can’t do the old traditions anymore because some people that we love are gone now, and others moved on with their lives – we’ve created new ones and kept other old traditions alive as well on the 4th.
Unfortunately, we’re stuck in Minnesota this year, and nothing really happens in our little town.
The last few years, we’ve had a “no burn ban”, which also included fireworks, so we couldn’t shoot any off out here, but we haven’t heard of anything like that this year. Plus, we’ve had plenty of rain, so I got some Sparklers for the kids, some little pop-it’s for Elijah, and Frankie got a few of the spinning, colorful fireworks.
Nothing crazy because we still want to play it safe.
I made burgers for dinner and got some freeze pops I know my little dude loves, and cupcakes my youngest daughter enjoys.
You know the 4th wouldn’t be the 4th without S’mores! So, I had to get some stuff to make those as well.
My daughter LOVES S’mores!
One thing I truly am missing this 4th – is how the fireworks in Illinois always start weeks before the 4th, and on the 4th – they can start as early as 4 AM – and we’ll hear huge M-80’s being blown off. They can go all the way until 4 AM the next morning, and sometimes – for days after.
Out here in our little town, we hear none of that, and it’s dead. It’s so boring out here, so I’m a little sad tonight that I’m not back home in Illinois, but – it is what it is.
The night is almost over and I wish I was at my best friend’s house or my aunt and uncle’s waiting for the fireworks to begin as we chat, enjoy dinner together, and a few drinks with my aunt (me and her anyway), I have to make the best of being stuck out here and so far from everything and everyone I love out there.
Please – no drinking and driving tonight.
In many bigger cities and states – buses and trains are free tonight from what I’m hearing. Check your local transit center / site.
In many bigger cities and states, Uber and Lyft are offering discouts and vouchers tonight.
Or – if you can’t do any of those and you’re in a smaller area, many police officers who aren’t busy – will sometimes pick you up and safely get you home.
NO EXCUSES!
I love you all, and as the dusk approaches and the fireworks begin – keep having fun, keep enjoying the night, and stay safe. ❤️
I saw a post earlier from one of my good friends – who posted:
“Make sure you put a boot in someone’s ass today in honor of Toby Keith”.
I loved that and it made me smile, so in honor of one of my favorite country singers – T.K. ……………………(Rest in peace and this one is for you and America tonight). 😁
In response to today’s WP writing prompt – NAPS! 🤣❤️
I’m old. I know.
Once you pass 40, a nap becomes a beautiful thing.
When I was younger, I HATED naps.
My (Yia-Yia) grandma and my (Papa) grandpa used to make my brother and I take naps when we came home from school every day. They used to babysit until our parents got home from work, and we had to nap for at least an hour. They had a love seat couch and a regular one, so we’d pick our couches, lay down and proceed to make each other laugh, instead of napping.
If Papa heard us talking and laughing, he’d stand by the little area between the living room and kitchen and bang his cane on the counter.
We tried to shut up and go to sleep when we heard that, but one of us would always start laughing again, causing the other to start laughing. Eventually, we’d fall asleep.
As I got older, I no longer felt like I needed a nap, so my grandparents would tell me just to lay down and wait until my brother fell asleep, and I could get back up. That’s what I did for a year or so – before he pretended to be asleep one day and realized I was getting up and not napping anymore.
He finally told my grandparents he didn’t want to nap, and they no longer made us, but for the time they did – we hated those forced naps.
I remember him confronting them and yelling, “If she doesn’t have to take a nap, neither do I”. They didn’t even fight with him about it. They agreed.
Now that I’m 44, Naps have become a beautiful thing.
If I’ve had a long morning or woke up early – and have the time to nap during the day, I’m doing it!
It’s doesn’t happen often. I’m usually super busy with work, the kids, and just making sure everything gets paid or done, but the moments that I can actually take a time out and nap – it’s lovely. I love naps, now. Especially on a dark, cloudy, stormy day.
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Now that we have that out of the way, today is a Baseball Day.
My little dude has a game not too far away.
We were supposed to have a Double-header last night, but it was storming most of the day, and the other team’s field was under water.
I can’t say I was disappointed because I wasn’t looking forward to that long drive, but they rescheduled for the 2nd week in July, so we still have to make that drive.
When I signed Elijah up for Baseball, I didn’t realize it was traveling Baseball, but I’ve done this before with my older son when he played Basketball. We used to have to travel to Wisconsin – sometimes for all day games. It’s not a big deal. It’s just a lot of time and gas.
I love watching Elijah play, and it gets him away from the video games, so I’m still going to travel to wherever they play, and yes – I’m still going to whine about it, but I know he loves the game, and he loves his coaches and team, so it’s all worth it. ⚾🧢
I have nothing for you today.
I shall go get my day started and maybe take a small nap. lol.
Seriously, love you all and whoever may come across this – I hope you have a fantastic day.
What’s something you used to believe as a kid that seems ridiculous now?
My parents used to tell me if I turned on the lights in the car while they were driving, the police would pull them over. 👀😁
Of course, that sounds ridiculous now and I’ve turned the lights on in my car while driving. Cops don’t care. My own kids have turned the lights on in the car while I’m driving, and the cops don’t care. That is in fact – a MYTH.
I’ve never been pulled over for it, and I don’t even think that’s a thing, but my parents really had me believing that when I was younger. (lol)
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Let’s talk about my youngest daughter, though!
That little spoiled girl.
When she graduated high school a few weeks ago, she had the option to either have a graduation party, or go see two Latin singers she absolutely loves (Romeo Santos and Prince Royce) in concert – out in Chicago.
She picked the concert in Chicago.
When we came back to Minnesota, she saw that all her friends were having graduation parties, so she made a comment about it and I felt like she really did want one. We talked about it, and while I refused to spend hundreds on a big party because she already made her choice, I was more than willing to have a graduation (get-together) for her with just a few of her close friends.
She was more than happy with that idea, so I’ve been running around like a chicken with my head cut off – planning that and getting everything together for it.
That was today.
I got off work, went and grabbed a few pizzas for her and her friends, went to pick up one of her friends because she’s on the route I take home, and the rest of my daughter’s friends had their parents drop them off. One of them drove herself.
We got the cake, the decorations, plates, chips, dip, pop, napkins, etc. yesterday, so that was all ready for today because I refused to rush around after work.
My daughter was excited about it, and even though she had a choice and picked the concert, I didn’t want her to feel left out of a graduation party, or at least something fun with her friends, so I caved!
I told them they could have the entire living room, dining room and kitchen to themselves and do whatever. (Watch movies, play games, play PS5, and so on) – and I wouldn’t bother them.
I promised my little dude we’d take our pizza into his room and watch movies, just him and I. He loved that idea, and that’s what we did. 😊 I invited my older son to join us, but he was on his PS5 in his own room.
Here’s one thing I learned a long time ago. (Years ago actually)…….
When teenage girls get together – they are crazy, wild and loud. They laugh a little too loud. They have no filters and say the craziest things. They scream and joke around a little too loudly. They make a hell of a lot of noise, and they are all hyper and goofy, so I didn’t expect anything other than that today, and that’s exactly what I got. 😂
They blasted the music, and I smiled and giggled a bit as I listened to them all singing different songs together.
Yes, they were so loud, but I didn’t mind.
I know my daughter had the best time and I’m so happy I was able to do this for her.
I wanted to take so many cute photos, but I also just wanted to leave her and her friends alone, so my little dude and I – stayed in his room watching movies and we let the girls have their fun.
My kitchen is a mess from cake and pizza.
The girls are now just relaxing in the living room – as I write this.
I hope and think that they are finally calming down from the hyper day they’ve had, and all the fun.
I’m so grateful she has some great friends in her life.
One of her friends was dropped off by the parents, and they came inside for a bit to chat.
I was more than grateful when the mom suggested I let her husband fix my car because it needs a lot of work, the brakes and rotors done and a few other things, and I haven’t been able to find a mechanic who I actually trust and who actually knows what they’re doing. So, I’ll take my car over there one day and allow him to fix it all if he can.
The little get-together for my daughter was a success.
The girls are still enjoying this.
The night is coming to an end, and I will be driving two of the girls home, probably coming back and enjoying a glass of wine in silence, and getting to bed early – as I work in the morning.
I have nothing else going on tonight, and I hope all of you have a beautiful one.
I hate when people say that, and it’s usually the people who have a lot of it – that say that.
I’ve seen a quote online that says:
I 2nd this!
While this quote is supposed to be funny, for those who are just trying to survive in this economy – money can totally buy happiness.
For those struggling with financial issues and not having enough money – money can totally buy happiness.
For those with bills, or big dreams that they want to go pursue and can’t because of the financial part of everything – money can totally buy happiness.
It’s wild because I’ve heard famous people, billionaires, and people with enough money in their accounts to be set for decades – say that more money only brought them more problems, and that they’re depressed.
I’ve heard them say that money doesn’t buy happiness, and they were happier when they didn’t have so much money, but …………………………………………………………………………
I feel like telling them all ………………
“Send it to my account. Problem solved!”. 😁
There are so many things I’d be able to do with a lot more money, and any time I’ve had more – I’ve always been happy, so maybe for some – that saying is true, but for me and many others dealing with this economy right now and the inflation of everything, money can absolutely solve a lot of things and buy happiness!
I can also say that money and mental health definitely play a big part with each other. So, yes, I think if more people had access to more resources or money – mental health struggles would not go away, but the number of people that struggle with mental health may be lowered.
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With that being said – let’s talk about my birthday.
It was yesterday.
I woke up emotional.
I’m living in the middle of nowhere in a small town where I don’t know many people, and all of my friends and family are back home in IL.
My parents are gone, so they’re not going to call and wish me a happy birthday, and there’s absolutely nothing to do in this small town or even in the closest bigger city. I would have to drive hours and hours to go find something to do and I didn’t want to do that.
My morning started with tears. With me crying and being this emotional little baby and feeling sorry for myself. I decided I was probably going to go take a ride and get out of the house for a while, maybe grab a free birthday drink from Starbucks, run to a couple of stores, grab my birthday cake I had custom ordered and come right back home to go back to bed.
I planned to watch movies in bed all day. Sounds awful, right?
Do I have people out here that I do know – who I could have called and know they would have celebrated with me? Yes. Still, I just felt like not doing anything yesterday.
I will say that when I picked up my birthday cake – it was better than I expected.
Oh yeah! I grabbed a bottle of wine on my way home as well. 🍷
I planned to watch one of my favorite movies (Second Act) with Jennifer Lopez and Leah Remini.
Great movie, and in it – it was also Maya’s birthday (played by Lopez), and she was feeling sorry for herself because of the things she wanted to do, the things she was doing that she didn’t want to do, and the way she felt unaccomplished. At 40, she was feeling like she should have done more, or be doing more, and that’s kind of how I felt yesterday – aside from not having my IL. family and friends here with me.
So, I was going to watch that movie when the kids went to bed, and I was going to enjoy a glass of wine – or two.
It’s a great movie if you ever need something cute to watch. ❤️
Anyway, I came home yesterday afternoon and sat on the couch for a bit just watching my little dude play his video games and thinking about life itself.
I decided I was NOT going to keep up with this damn pity party that I was having.
I got up, told my daughter to get ready to ride with me, and we went to the library.
I love a good book! I love reading and my daughter calls me a “book nerd” and a “book worm”.
She laughs about how fast I can get through a good book.
I decided I was going to do something I love to do.
Go pick out a few books!
I ended up getting two books.
My daughter told me I should try more fictions, because there’s some really good ones out there. Anyone who knows me – knows that I’m mostly about non-fiction books, but I’ll dip my nose into a good fiction love story or mystery / crime book from time to time.
One of my favorite authors from the fiction category of books is Raenne Thayne.
So, I always look for something new from her when we go to the library.
I just read her awesome book
Abby is a widowed nurse trying to move out of state to start a new life somewhere else with her young son, but before she moves to the new state she’s going to, her good friend Lucy asks her to spend a few weeks at Holiday House to watch over her elderly grandma who took a bad fall and was injured.
Lucy is out of town and won’t be back for another few weeks to watch over her own grandma, but when she does come back – she loves the idea of Abby and her son spending Christmas at Holiday House. So does the grandma (Winnie), who both Abby and her son have grown to love.
The problem?
Lucy’s brother (Ethan) stops by every so often, and Abby finds him so attractive.
Ethan (who had a fiancé in the past, but realized he didn’t love her and was perfectly fine when she left him), finds himself attracted to Abby as well, and as Abby knows she’s moving and leaving the state, and Ethan finds himself falling harder for Abby and loving her son like his own the more he sees her and spends time with her – now what?
She’s not staying in the small town she’s currently in to help with Holiday House and the grandma, so Ethan is fighting against his feelings and time. Abby is fighting against her feelings and ignoring time.
Meanwhile, Lucy is dealing with her own love emotions as she has a guy who is so in love with her and wants more than a “friends with benefits” thing that they’ve been having, but she saw her parents fighting a lot, and she never wants to go through that, so she tries her hardest not to get into a relationship with the man who is in love with her, and he refuses to continue to be just her “friend with benefits” .
It’s a really good book, and I totally 10/10 recommend it!
I’ve ready many of her books and love them all!
The one I got at the library yesterday is:
So, I’ve read this one before, but it’s one of my favorites, and yes – I’m going to read it again!
Serenity Harbor is about a wealthy businessman (Bowie) who is raising his little brother (Milo) who has autism and is a lot of work. He can be hard to handle, and uncontrollable sometimes. Bowie didn’t even know he existed until he has to become his guardian.
He and Katrina meet at a local grocery store one day, and she walks over to help him with a meltdown his brother is having, and once he sees how good she is with him, he hires her temporarily to help him with his brother.
She ends up moving in with Bowie (short-term) to make things easier on him while he’s working on his business stuff, and whatever he needs to do, while Katrina is also trying to find out about adopting a special-needs girl she met while doing work in another country a while back.
The more Katrina is living with Bowie, and he sees how she is with his brother, and the more Katrina gets to know Bowie – they have to struggle to keep it professional and both fight the fact that there are strong feelings there, but neither one of them want to say anything.
10/10 – I recommend this one as well.
This book made me laugh a bit, and she’s just such a great writer – that many of her stories keep me interested, so when it comes to fiction – she’s my first “go-to” for a good book, but I’ve opened my mind up to checking out other fiction as well.
We’ll see.
I’m more into non-fiction as I said. Mostly autobiographies.
I also picked up the book
If you’ve seen the movie (The Blind side) – this is the real guy who went through everything that movie is based on. It’s a real movie. It’s a real story, and I wanted to read things from his point of view.
The library is one of my happy places. 😁
My daughter knows we can be there for a long time, so she minds her business, lets me pick out books, suggests books to me, and lets me just do my thing.
I love her for her patience! lol.
I had to laugh when we were checking out and she made a comment about how I can get through books in two days, and the librarian smiled and told me, “Well then – you need more than just two books!”.
My daughter was hungry, so as much as I wanted to tell the librarian she was probably right, turn around and go to look for more books, we just checked out and I went to grab Pizza for dinner. It was my birthday and I wasn’t planning to cook for it.
We had Pizza. We had my cake. The kids sang to me and I danced to it. I took some cute photos because again – I wasn’t going to be emotional all day and let it ruin my day, and I relaxed for a bit with the kids – waiting for them to go to bed, so I could pour a glass of wine and watch (Second Act), but I ended up getting so tired – I went to be bed as well.
Isn’t my cake pretty though?
And, of course – I had to grab a few selfies.
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I look totally crazy in this, huh?! haha.
I plan to treat myself to something cute when I get paid in a few days.
Be it some new lotion from Bath N’ Body, or something from Amazon, I will treat myself.
I did see this and had to get it…………………………..
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I had a decent birthday.
It wasn’t fantastic, but it was okay, and I’m okay with that.
If you want to laugh – there’s a trend on TikTok where women change the numbers of their candles around. If someone is 42, she’ll change the 2 to the other side to make it look like she’s 24. If she’s 32, she’ll make it look like she’s 23, and whoever is with her, changes the numbers back around to her real age. The woman who is doing this trend – will say “no”, playfully slap the hand of whoever is changing it back, as she changes it to the way she wants it to be, and giggles.
So many women are doing this trend right now.
I was going to do a video with this trend – until I made myself laugh because I’m 44 now.
No matter how I switch the number candles, they’re going to come out the same way. 🤔
I didn’t think about that when I planned to do this trend.
Ah well. It was a fun thought.
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Babies!
I mentioned a few days ago that I heard Bunnie XO and Jelly were getting divorced, and it broke my heart.
They are one of my favorite couples, and I thought they were so happy – forever and ever, Amen.
No.
The internet went crazy trying to figure out why they were suddenly getting divorced once the news broke, and people wondered who cheated on who.
The internet went crazy trying to dog out Jelly and sticking up for Bunnie. The internet went crazy gossiping, spreading rumors and lies, and sharing nonsense. The internet went crazy bringing up old videos of Bunnie and Jelly with other people or trying to decode the meanings of everything in their videos or on their socials.
I did none of that.
I waited because I knew that eventually – the truth was going to come out, and one of them was going to speak on it.
I knew one of them was going to come out with exactly what was going on, and why the divorce was happening, and yesterday – as I drove home from the library and grabbing Pizza, I noticed that Bunnie XO had put out a Podcast called, “The divorce”.
My daughter and I listened to it on the way home and it broke my heart.
I stand with Bunnie XO, and so does the entire world of women.
She spoke on how her and Jelly stopped communicating a long time ago, and she has always felt like she loved him – more than he loved her. She said they had a bad argument on Mother’s Day, and she screamed for him to file the divorce papers, and – he did.
She said she screamed it out of anger, but when he really went and filed, that was a rude awakening for her. She didn’t want the divorce. She doesn’t want the divorce. She wanted to try to work it out in marriage counseling, but Jelly doesn’t want to. He’s ready for the divorce and he’s ready to see other people now. He’s not happy in this marriage and she still stuck up for him and said he’s doing what he has to do, and she respects that.
She said everything beautifully in her Podcast and talked about being happy for him wanting to be happy, and finding his way now, and she even went as far as to tell women listening – that his DM’s are open and that if he finds a woman who is sweet, genuine and isn’t on some sneaky shit – she’ll welcome that woman with open arms.
She spoke highly of Jelly and talked about the years they’ve spent together. She spoke of building their empire together, and their struggles trying to have a baby, and even mentioned that they plan to keep trying to have a baby together / co-parent together if it happens – despite the divorce. (Which confused the hell out of me, but everyone does things differently).
She killed any rumors or gossip going around the internet and said she is NOT and never will be dating Chad Kroeger despite videos or rumors out there. She said Jelly is dating already, and she’s happy for him. She said he was kind enough to give her the compound they were building together and talked about how they will always be friends.
She shared her true feelings on everything, and despite her not wanting the divorce, she is okay being there for him during this time and being happy for his next chapter in life – whatever that may be and whoever he may end up with.
Bunnie XO is a beautiful person with a beautiful soul, and she’s not going to cause him problems or make his life hell just because he wants this divorce, and he’s ready to move on, and I respect her so much for that. ❤️
If you’ve seen his video from his concert (I believe last night) – now that the news of the divorce is out because TMZ got ahold of it and broke the news, and because now Bunnie XO spoke about it on her Podcast, he went on to say at his concert – that Bunnie Xo is his best friend and always will be – and I thought that was beautiful.
So, if you’ve been waiting on one of them to break their silence, or if you’re wondering what’s really going on – go listen to Bunnie’s Podcast, and if you don’t want to go find it, I also posted it below for you to watch.
My heart broke every time she wanted to cry, and I’m sure this is killing her, but still – she stays peaceful, respectful, and honors his wishes.
THE WORLD LOVES BUNNIE XO, and she’s going to be alright.
She’s already landing on her feet and working on herself.
I giggle every time I hear someone say Jelly is an idiot, or that he fumbled Bunnie, and I have to agree, but we’re not going to disrespect, or talk down on him. We’re not going to make him feel bad, right?
People fall out of love all the time. He did the right thing by filing the divorce, not cheating on her, and not leading her on to believe that all was still good when it wasn’t / isn’t.
I think if a married couple can work things out and love each other, by all means – I cheer that on, but if one falls out of love, or one knows that it’s not working and he or she chooses to file divorce before cheating, so they can go see other people or see who else is out there that may be more for them – I’m all for that as well.
He never talks down on her or bad about her, and I know that despite all of this – them being one of my favorite couples – and now – no longer together – they will always love and be there for one another and that’s all we need to know.
Bunnie said she’s “Getting her sparkle back”…. but baby never lost it!
She’s always had that sparkle!
Loves.
Have a beautiful day my loves.
I’m going to go enjoy my Coffee and the Michael Oher book, and tonight – best believe me and that wine have a date. ha. I plan to watch that movie I planned to watch last night.
I no longer try to control things that are out of my control.
I have learned that life is going to test us sometimes. Life is going to challenge us sometimes. Life is going to throw curveballs and kick our asses sometimes, and sometimes – some of that stuff is going to be out of our control.
I used to stress over many things. I used to worry. I used to stay awake at night if there was an issue.
I used to try to figure out what I can do to change outcomes, or people’s minds, or to try to make a situation better.
I don’t do that anymore.
These days, I have grown by just allowing whatever is going to be – to be.
If I know I have the power to change something – be it a situation or someone’s mind, or whatever life is throwing at me, I will do everything in my power to do so, but if I know there is probably nothing that I can do to change something – I’m not even going to try to do it anymore, and I’m just going to go with the flow.
I no longer allow myself to stress over things I can’t control.
I no longer try to change things I can’t control.
I no longer allow myself lose sleep over things I can’t control, or to let those things upset me.
It is what it is and it’s going to be what it’s going to be.
I trust God and sometimes – we just have to grow with him and let him handle the things that are out of our control and power.
Sometimes, we just have to trust him to know who and what we need, who and what we don’t need, and to do what only God can do.
I was watching a movie one time (The War Room) and in this movie – a woman was trying to change her husband and his ways to keep her family together, and she finally broke down and cried over the husband not changing. Not wanting to make it work. Not thinking about his family.
She met an elderly woman who told her the reason things are not working out the way she wants to – is because she’s trying to control the situation without God. She’s not praying about it. This elderly woman tells her she has to pray, give all these problems to God, and then “Get out of the way and let him do what only he can do!”.
I took that advice to allow myself to grow in that, and that’s what I follow these days.
With situations at my job. With relationships and friendships. With life itself. With anything that happens these days.
I don’t get upset. I don’t get angry. I don’t get stressed or bothered or try to control a situation or curveball life throws at me.
I simply “Let go and Let God”.
I pray about whatever it is on my mind or in my heart, or anything that comes my way that I can’t control or handle, and then – I get out of the way and let God do what only he can do. Only he can control the situation, the curveball, the stress, the worry, the problems – whatever they may be.
That’s one way I’ve grown this year.
I don’t try to control or change the things I can’t control or change.
I pray about them and wait for God to guide me or put it in my heart to do what only I can do.
I’ve had to walk by faith and in faith many times, and I’ve grown to allow myself to trust God to make things happen, or make things right, or even to make things better. To let a situation or problem work itself out, or for me to be okay at the end of a problem or situation. To walk me through it and be there with me as I do, and I always just pray for him to let things work out the way they’re supposed to.
I no longer worry.
Someone also once said that worrying is like a rocking chair – it gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.
I follow that now.
It took a lot for me to grow not only emotionally, but spiritually and to trust God to take control of the things I can’t and to work them out for good.
I fully believe in the Serenity prayer, and I learned it when I was a little girl going to church often, and still follow that today.
I no longer try to do everything that pleases everyone.
I no longer care what others thing about what I do that makes me and my kids happy.
I no longer worry about nonsense and who does what.
I no longer care or stress about a lot of things, because it feels amazing when you let all that go, trust God and allow yourself to just breathe. Just live. Just be.
“Baby, go to college and start a career now. If you wait, life is going to kick your ass!”.
Today’s WP writing prompt asked. I’m answering.
I know they say that no matter how old you are, it’s never too late to go back to school, but I will also add to that – that it’s a lot harder if you’re older.
If you’re in your 20’s – Do it while you’re young! Go to college NOW!
I was raising a kid when I was 20, and I was still partying and living my best life, so I wasn’t thinking about college.
I wanted to go.
I knew I should go to college right then and there.
Well, I did go for a little bit, but not the way I should have been.
I enrolled for Psychology because at the time – that’s what I thought I wanted to do, but I dropped those classes because then I thought I wanted to be a nurse, so I took up CNA classes at first, and planned to get my LPN license. I left those classes because Massage therapy sounded nice, but I wasn’t interested in the fact that we had to get completely naked in class, and work on each other (because that’s part of Massage therapy) in real life. Of course, we were all covered by thin sheets, but still.
I left those classes, and when I finally figured out what I really wanted to do – I should have just gone to college, stuck with it, finished and got into my career young.
I always knew what I wanted to be or do from the time I was 15, (Probation officer) so it wasn’t like I was still “trying to figure it out”. Or was I? Maybe I was just trying to make sure before I enrolled in classes again.
When I finally knew for sure……………….
I just didn’t feel like I had time for that because when was I going to spend time with my kid, or have time to party? I was making the wrong choices and felt like I had all the time in the world for college, and “I’ll go one day”. That was my mind-set and I wish it wasn’t back then, but the reality is – even though I am now 43, and graduated college with two Criminal Justice degrees, it was so much harder to balance work, kids, bills, and life in general when I did finally go to college at the age of 39.
I graduated with my associate degree in 2023, and my BA degree in 2025, and I am so proud of that.
It is proof that no matter how old you are, you can still go back to school and do something with yourself, but – it is so much harder as you get older and have to balance different things, meet school papers and projects deadlines, and so on.
If I had a chance to tell my 20-year-old self – something – it would be not to wait. To go to college while you’re 20 and only have one kid. While you’re not working crazy hours and overtime and paying all these bills, and losing your damn mind trying to survive in your 40’s.
I am still so proud of all the men and women who do the same thing.
Raise kids, pay bills, work their asses off and are my age – just now going to college to better their lives.
I will also say that as we get older – even if we graduate college and have the best GPA’s and degrees, it’s not enough to get the career you want because now you’re a lot older, and people our ages are looking forward to only working the next 20-something years and living the rest of our lives having fun, retired and happy – not just trying to start the career you wanted to start many years ago while you were younger, and didn’t get your ass into college right away.
It is hard going to college when you’re older.
It is hard finding a position in a career you want when you’re older.
I do suggest if you’re in your teens or 20’s and you’re reading this – you plan to go to college right after high school and get the career you want while you’re still young enough to do so.
As for me, I sadly live in an area / small town – where there isn’t many or any opportunities to be in the career I want, so, I will be moving somewhere bigger and better in the next few months to a year and making sure I make this happen for myself, but don’t wait to go to college and think you can be what you want to be later, because sometimes – that doesn’t happen, it may be too late, and you just need to motivate yourself to do it now.
Hell, even if you’re in your 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and still thinking about college and wish you could – you SHOULD!
It’s never too late. It just becomes a little harder, but if I did it, why not you?
SO, I’d just tell my 20-year-old self to enroll, finish now, and become what you’ve always wanted to become.
Don’t wait.
Besides that……………..
I think by now – we all went to bed last night or woke up this morning to the shocking and sad news that:
(Image taken from TMZ)
I was scrolling Facebook last night, and I scrolled past a TMZ post reporting it, and we all know that TMZ doesn’t report it – if it’s not facts, right? They are my “go-to” when I want to check sources and make sure the news I hear is real.
I was so heartbroken to hear this because what the hell?
Jelly and Bunnie seemed like they were so happy.
They seemed like the perfect couple.
I just read Bunnie’s new book about how they were healing together after everything that happened in their past with each other and as individuals.
I heard a few months ago, Bunnie was doing treatments to try to get pregnant and have their baby.
So, this came out of nowhere for everyone, and I think the entire world is feeling this.
I’m not a huge Jelly roll fan, but him as a person and all the good things that he has done for others – makes him an amazing person, and we all know I absolutely adore and love Bunnie XO. She’s real, raw and doesn’t care what people think. She inspires others to not care what people think, and she has done so much good for others as well.
So, to hear that he filed for this divorce, but also hearing that it was a mutual agreement, it’s sad, but it is what it is.
It just proves that when others see another couple looking all cuddled up and happy, all cute and think that they are “the perfect couple”, we never know what goes on behind closed doors, or what struggles their marriage is having.
A married couple could look so happy and perfect outdoors around people, go home together, and be miserable. The wife is unhappy and truly wants a divorce, but they have kids, assets, a business, or whatever else they own together, so it will be tough and expensive to get out of the marriage, or the husband feels that way. Maybe both – but not all “happy and perfect” marriages, are the way they seem and Jelly and Bunnie proved that.
Someone in our family – or our friend groups can seem like they have the healthiest, best marriage and in reality, when the couple is home alone – they’re doing nothing but fighting, or not speaking to each other and not sleeping in the same bed anymore.
We never know the reality of what couples DON’T want us to see, so – we think and see what they portray, and that’s how it is now with Bunnie and Jelly. He filed in May, and nobody knew anything until they just announced it and news channels reported it.
Bunnie was with Jelly when he had nothing. She helped him financially, emotionally and mentally when he was going through some of his darkest times, and she helped raised his daughter, and he did a lot of things for her as well, so I’m hoping they remain good friends, continue to be there for each other, and get to live their individual happy lives now – apart. 💔
NOBODY SAW THIS ONE COMING, but that’s life.
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Baseball:
We drove an hour 1/2 away to another part of Minnesota last night for the double-header our team was supposed to play, but while GPS showed at first it was 2-hours, it was about an hour and some minutes or so.
We got their and my kids were speechless at how beautiful and huge this other school was.
They have their own ICE arena, and my kids joked that if those kids ever came to our little town, they’d want to turn around go back to their little town.
Anyway, it was cold.
The weather called for storms, and it was lightening with rumbles of thunder way off in the distance, but we all knew it was going to eventually get us.
The coaches kept an eye on the weather, and there were talks about either waiting it out for the 2nd game, or rescheduling. As we sat on the bleachers, the clouds got lower, darker, and weather apps were saying, “Take shelter now”. That part of Minnesota has seen a few tornados, and I just told my kids to be ready to run to the car, open it and start it up, and I’d grab Elijah (my little dude), and I’d run to the car as well.
I wanted to make sure they were safe, while I made sure my little dude was safe – if anything major happened, but – thankfully, it just started pouring right after we won our first game against this school, and the boys all ran into the dugout to eat hotdogs, and whatever else the moms and dads brought.
We brought the chips, and I felt like I should have gotten something healthy, but I was so happy to hear that almost every kid on the team dug into the chips, and they were good with it. 😁
My little dude came running over to me and told me the coach said he could leave because they probably weren’t playing the 2nd game. I walked over to the coach to make sure – because sometimes, my little dude likes to play around too much, but he was right.
Our Coach and the coach from the other team were talking about how it wasn’t supposed to stop raining until later, and they were talking about rescheduling. The other coach mentioned how if the boys went back onto the field, they’d be cold, wet and miserable and I was glad he made that call.
So, we were able to leave and get home earlier than we expected, and it was nice to not have to drive late on dark, country roads. We drove while it was still light outside and got home safely by the grace of God!
The boys have an hour-long practice today.
I had to laugh when we were leaving the field yesterday, walking to the car and my daughter ran past me.
She yelled, “Go! Go! Run! I stole a box of the chips we brought!”.
She was running, so I thought she was serious. I yelled her name and told her to get back by me, but she stopped running, laughed and said she was just joking. She smiled and said, “If I were to steal anything – it wouldn’t be a box of chips!”. She was raised right, and she knows better, so I’m not worried about her stealing anything, but I did think she took the box of chips – maybe thinking they were done with it.
I had brought two boxes, and she said she grabbed a bag, and one of the coaches told her all the boys already had chips, and they were done, so she was able to take that box home.
All-in-all, the boys had fun yesterday before the wind picked up and it started raining.
There were no tornados.
We got home safe.
I was up early this morning, and this mama hasn’t had coffee yet, so I love you all and hope you have a blessed day if you run across this!
The song that can always put me in a better / good mood when I’m having a bad day, feel overwhelmed or just going through something – is LILO & STITCHES’ (Hawaiian Roller Coaster Ride).
I remember one time – having the most stressful day at work, coming home and pouring a glass of wine, putting this song on and dancing around my kitchen like nobody was watching (because I thought the kids were asleep) lol.
My daughter came out of her room watching me and laughing. I tried to get her to dance with me, but she just laughed and looked at me like I was insane.
I loved that moment and still remember it clearly.
That was the moment I realized that – this song makes everything better – no matter what I’m dealing with or going through.
I love the LILO & STITCH movies, and I loved this song the moment I heard it and still do.
It’s just a whole beautiful and fun vibe!!!
I blast it when I’m driving sometimes and dance in my seat as people next to me in different cars or behind / in front of me – are watching and smiling. I don’t care. I’m going to always jam out to this song. 😊
Next time you’re having a bad day, feeling low, or just dealing with a lot – throw on this song, think of me and maybe it will make you smile – as you dance in your seat or around the kitchen.
The above version is from the human version of the movie.
Today’s WP prompt question gives me a ROSS AND RACHEL vibe!
If you’ve watched the show F.R.I.E.N.D.S. before – you’ll know.
He was her person and no matter what guy she dated, where she relocated or was in life, no matter what she was going through – she knew that. She was his person, and no matter woman he dated, where he was, or what he was going through – he knew that.
They were each other’s happy place.
To answer the question, No. I don’t believe in Soulmates, but I do believe that everyone has their person out there.
When you find your person – you’ll just know.
And no, it’s not the same thing as Soulmates.
From Google’s POV:
“A Soulmate is typically about a deep, spiritual, or instant connection meant to teach you lessons, while “your person” – is your chosen, long-term teammate who provides everyday stability and reliability”.
Google goes on to share that:
Soulmate: Often feels like a predestined, magnetic pull. These relationships can be intense and rocky, arriving to challenge you, change your perspective, and foster personal growth.
Your Person: This is a conscious, everyday choice. They are your reliable best friend, safe space, and life partner who sticks by you through practical challenges.
I like the idea of “my person” being out there somewhere.
I don’t like the word Soulmates for some reason, and I’ve never believed in that sort of thing.
I think “your person” is more practical, and makes more sense.
The person who makes you feel loved, safe, protected. Not every day is going to be roses and sunshine, but your person makes you feel like no matter what – he or she is going to be there to get you through everything, so you don’t have to do the hard times alone.
No matter what mistakes you both make, what you go through together, how many times you disagree, or so on – you know in your heart you can’t be without that person, and that’s the person who makes you the happiest.
It’s hard to explain in my opinion, but they’re not the same thing and I believe in “your person” being out there or having your person – more than soulmates.
Make sense?
We all have our person out there, and if you’ve found yours, Congrats! 😊💕
If not, trust me when I say it will eventually happen, and you’ll just know.
Google also says:
“Your person” refers to someone with whom you share a profound, unconditional connection. They are your ultimate confidant, someone who accepts your flaws, celebrates your victories, and provides a safe space—whether they are a romantic partner or a best friend.
I couldn’t have said it better myself!
This scene always makes me a little sad – when Ross finally gets the nerve to tell Rachel how he truly feels and she’s about to move and start a new job!
See?
He knew that was his person, and he waited too long.
If you know who your person is already, don’t do that.
Don’t be a Ross. lol.
So, no. I don’t believe in the Soulmate thing and don’t even like the word, but I do believe in having your person!
If you had an unlimited budget for 24 hours, what would you do?
So, this is today’s WP writing prompt and it made me smile.
They say money can’t buy happiness, but in reality – whoever has tons of money and can’t find happiness from it – is shopping at the wrong malls / stores! 👀
If I had an unlimited budget for 24 hours, what would I do?
I’d be sitting at my computer for a few minutes – to pay off my car and start some kind of “give away”, so someone could win it.
A single mom or dad who has no car.
Someone whose car is about to break down.
A teenager who just got their license, but their parents can’t afford to give them a car.
I’d give mine away after paying it off – to someone who truly needs it, and then – I’d go to the dealer and get myself a nice family SUV.
Of course, I’d have to stop at Starbucks in my nice family SUV, and celebrate the fact that I finally have one, and got rid of my little foreign one.
I’d make sure the kids and I went shopping. More for them – than myself – to allow them to pick out brand new clothes and shoes.
I’d pack up my entire apartment and get the hell out of Minnesota, and move closer to home again.
I’d totally pay off other bills, and send some money to friends, so they can enjoy a day or two doing whatever they want to do to treat themselves or their kids. 🩷
I’m not hard to please.
I don’t need or want the finer things in life.
I just want that family SUV finally, my bills to be paid, to get out of Minnesota and back to people and places we love and know, and my kids, friends and family to be happy.
That’s not too much to ask for. Is it? 🧐
Yes!
That is all.
I hope you all have a lovely day.
I’m about to start mine and run errands with my older son and relax before tonight’s graduation ceremony and tomorrow’s early morning road trip to IL. ❤️
