Hey there!
You can call me Shel.
I’m 44 currently.
I used to feel some type of way about getting older, but then I realized what a blessing it actual is. There are people out there who never had the chance to see an age beyond their 40’s, and once I thought of it that way, I learned that every year – every birthday – every age that goes up – is a celebration of life and a reason to be grateful. ❤️
So – about me:
I’m a mom of 4.
Most of you know I lost my oldest child a few years ago when she was 21, but I hold all good and funny memories of her close to my heart, and these days – I can only heal, right? (or, try). My other kids are 23, 18 and 9 currently, and I just do my best to live life to the fullest with them, and do any fun things we can to make all the memories we can – before they get older and leave the nest.
I work a lot, so I don’t have a lot of time to do much.
I’m currently a Behavioral health tech at a drug and alcohol addictions treatment center, and while I don’t exactly get excited over the job, I love my co-workers and the clients. It’s a lot of work. It’s tough sometimes and it can be draining, but it can also be rewarding and the hilarious moments that come with the amazing clients are why I keep going back.
In my free time – I love a good book and can get through one in a matter of hours or days if it’s really good. I enjoy horseback riding whenever I can get over to the stables. I love hanging out with family and my kids, writing (as you can see!), enjoying good conversations, visiting museums, shopping, and so many other things I can sit here and list, but I don’t exactly have that much time.
I also love so many good movies I could watch over and over again, and listening to different types of music.
I love helping others when I can, and just enjoy showing people that there are people out here who give a damn about them and what they’re going through because we all know mental health matters so much these days. So, if I can help someone smile – I absolutely will. I’ve been through so much shit in my life, I never want anyone to feel alone or like they can’t stay another day.
Both of my parents are gone now, but I cherish all the memories I’ve had with them – even if sometimes – things weren’t easy and we didn’t always see eye to eye or get along. My mother was amazing, and she did her best, and I have tons of great memories with her and of her, and my father and I – we didn’t really talk much for a good reason, but he was still my father and I still have some funny and good memories of him as well.
I enjoy cooking and baking.
I enjoy taking photos of different things.
I love watching the sunset and sunrises.
I love sitting by the lake and just clearing my mind.
I love hanging out with friends.
At some point this year – I do plan to get back to the gym and get my Pre-covid body back! (lol)
I love Halloween and Christmas, and my kids call me crazy because I’ll decorate in late July or early August for all three holidays at the same time. I just find it cozy and peaceful to have the entire house decorated and no lights on – except the lights from the holiday decorations.
In other news – we have one cat (Simba) and one Bunny (Looney).
Simba technically belongs to my little dude, but he barely pays attention to him, so secretly, Simba has become my cat, and if you didn’t know – I’m not a cat person. I’ve hated cats for so long because I had two bad experiences with cats when I was younger, but I absolutely love and adore our (my) Simba.
Looney belongs to Kailani and she and he have a great bond.
I love Autumn.
I love Weeping willow trees.
I love Yellow and pink roses.
I love Lilacs and Orchids.
I love thrift stores. I’m totally a thrifty gal, especially when I can find good deals.
I’m always joking around and I’m playfully sarcastic. It’s when I don’t get sarcastic with you – that you should worry.
I have a few tattoos. Ohana and Lilo on my forearm, a name on my ankle that I will be getting covered soon (ex), and a few initials on my hand that I need to have fixed, but they will be done soon. I want more of course, and those are planned for next year.
I love horses.
I love a good cup of coffee in the mornings and a good glass of wine at night here and there. I love learning new things, and while I don’t get much of it – I love a good sleep when I’ve had a long day and can finally lay down and let out a sigh of relief for another day over and done with – that I survived.
I love God – even though recently, I’ve felt like my faith was being tested. I pray often. I read my Bible, and as someone who grew up going to church every Sunday and participating in church things because my mother made sure we did – my faith is important to me.
My favorite colors are yellow and purple.
I’m really friendly – although some people like to joke that I have no heart – (they joke! I promise).
I don’t sugar coat anything, so I keep it raw, real, and tell it like it is, and that’s just me. If you need advice – if you need or want to know what I really think – you better be ready to hear me out because I’m straight-forward, straight to the point, and there’s no beating around the bush with me.
I can sit here and talk about myself all day, but I’m not going to.
If I missed anything and there’s anything you want to know, feel free to ask.
I’m an open book, and I just wanted to share the basics.
XoXo.
